Comments on: Happy Father’s Day: A Special Message to Divorced Dads of Daughters!

By: Terry

Terry — Mon, 05 Nov 2012 04:13:59 +0000

Great point about the foundation of your life dissolving. The breakup of a family can be particularly hard for girls and young women. We usually desire connection for personal growth and suffer from wounded trust after a parent leaves. Certainly regular contact with both parents who effectively co-parent can help ease the pain.I hope that you can restore your faith in love over time – it is often a slow process to rebuild trust but well worth the effort. Stay in touch. Sorry for the delay,life has been busy and we had Hurrican Sandy on here the east coast. My best, Terry

By: Looking at divorce

Looking at divorce — Fri, 19 Oct 2012 17:06:42 +0000

This is something that I wish my father had read when my parents got a divorce. It was really hard for me to try to emotionally support either of my parents through it when I needed them to help me through it. It was like the foundation of my life was suddenly gone.

All the best to you dads out there, weather the storm!

By: Terry

Terry — Wed, 27 Jun 2012 03:39:31 +0000

Hi,I’m sorry it’s taken a few days to get back to you. It sounds like when you typed this comment, you were upset. It’s understandable that you would be feeling blue. However, your daughter will bounce back and hopefully will be resilient in the need. Staying strong and doing your best to maintain contact with her – even if it’s a card or email will pay off in the long run. Loving your child can be painful when you feel that you don’t have any control – I’ve been there and it hurts! However, you aren’t alone. I found the names of three websites for single or divorced dads. They are: Memories of a Single Dad, Only Dads, and Divorce advice for men. I can’t recommend them since I haven’t used them. However, they all seem to offer support and guidance for divorced dads. Stay in touch and keep your eye out for some upcoming teleseminars on my website. The first one will be focused on daughters of divorce. It might help you better understand what your daughter is dealing with. She is lucky to have you as a dad – hang in there! Regards,Terry

By: Norton

Norton — Mon, 25 Jun 2012 15:34:32 +0000

Thanks Tracy, for responding. If you can refer me to the sites you have in mind, I’d appreciate it. I just have to be a “rock,” be calm, be myself, and wait– heck, that is all I can do, and try to tell (as often and whenever I can) my daughter that I am and always will be here for her. I know– you know– she will come around someday, maybe soon more likely later, maybe in a year, maybe 3 years, maybe 10 years, maybe when she visits my grave. This is hardly reassuring but it is all I have. My daughter, before my very eyes, is being subjected to a life of pain & suffering, until she herself seeks help (most likely as an adult)but only after enduring much hardship with developing healthy relationships, especially with men. It is very hard for me to watch this happening, so helplessly.

By: Tracy

Tracy — Sun, 24 Jun 2012 12:57:37 +0000

Hello. You are smart to encourage your husband to hang in there. Adolescence is a challenging time for girls and divorce makes it even harder. Fortunately, kids tend to see the truth but it may take time. I hope your husband read the blog and realizes he is not alone. He’s lucky to have you – you seem to get the importance of the father-daughter relationship. Girls need consistent dads who don’t give up on them! Most of the dozens of women I’ve interviewed talked about their dads as a central theme in their lives and the main relationship that was impacted by their parents’ divorce. Keep in touch! You can sign up for our newsletter on our website, and follow us on Facebook and Twitter. Terry

By: Tracy

Tracy — Sun, 24 Jun 2012 12:44:20 +0000

I’m so sory to hear about your struggle and loss. I can’t give you legal advice but I would recommend that you don’t give up on your daughters.If you are patient in your efforts, hopefully they’ll come closer to you in time. There are several social media sites for divorced dads and you can get some support there. Most kids have a tendency to see the truth eventually but adolescence is a challenging time for girls. Keep in touch and hang in there! Terry

By: Tracy

Tracy — Sun, 24 Jun 2012 12:33:55 +0000

Hi Jim, I’m glad you enjoyed my blog. I want to support dads and their relationships with their kids. Unfortuantely, the daughter is often the one that suffers the most post-divorce. The lack of connection with her father can leave an imprint for years to come and impact her view of love, trust, and intimacy. Most of the dozens of women I’ve interviewed for my studies on divorce talked about fathe/daughter wounds. Spread the word and be in touch! Terry

By: Jim Cairns

Jim Cairns — Sat, 23 Jun 2012 20:05:38 +0000

I enjoyed your article. We all need a stable, predicable environment, especially kids. It’s important to remember that kids of divorced parents have more to deal with, and biting the tongue for them is critical. I provide online divorces in PA, and only do uncontested divorces. It’s so much easier all the way around (and for me too).

By: Norton

Norton — Wed, 20 Jun 2012 17:53:17 +0000

I was divorced, after a 2-year very contentious proceeding— all conflict caused by the mother– last March; I have not seen my 15 almost 16 year old daughter since last November– she is totally alientated from me by her mother and ignores my possession periods. My 14 year old son is hanging on by his finger-nails, and comes whenever he is supposed to. The entire divorce proceeding was entirely biased against the father….

By: Jayne

Jayne — Wed, 20 Jun 2012 14:52:11 +0000

My husband is dealing with PAS and a court appointed minors counsel who has bought into the mother’s PAS. So many times he’s ready to throw in the towel because her mother has pulled the daughter away from the dad and when he so much as tries to discipline her it turns into a therapist visit and more loss of visitation. And when I say discipline I mean as simple as taking an ipod away for talking back. He’s never hit or even so much grounded her. He feels she doesn’t love him or want to be with him. She’s 13. They used to be very close. He’s trying hard to stay in her life but with PAS going on it is very hard. You have given me some glimmer of hope that there is a chance she may see that it was her mother pitting her against her dad and not her dad not wanting her. Thank you