Resources

Informational Websites, Books, and Videos on Divorce, Co-Parenting, Legal, Daughters of Divorce, Relationships, Dating, Marriage, Parenting, Addiction, Mental Health, and C0-Dependency

Co-Parenting Resources for Parents Living Apart in Massachusetts

Next Phase Legal

Successful co-parenting requires flexibility, respect, responsibility, accountability, and good communication. On top of all of these skills there are also many situations that arise that can be difficult to resolve. What’s the best residential schedule for both parents and their children? Who makes the major parenting decisions? How are punishments handled? This resource helps divorced parents work through the hurdles of co-parenting.”
http://nextphaselegal.com/services/co-parenting-resources/

Dating Resources

Consumer Affairs Review for Online Dating Sites and Services “Best” in Online Dating Sites With an estimated 1,000 online dating sites in existence, it can be hard to sift through all the options and decide which is the best site. Being able to know how to evaluate a dating site is essential in the decision process, and it will bring you that much closer to finding a good match.

Sleep Resources

MySlumberYard provides valuable resources and information for those for striving to sleep better while going through a breakup or divorce.  “Who knew that heartbreak could potentially cause physical pain within the brain and body along with a list of related sleep issues? MySlumberYard explains the relationship between breakups and insomnia by evaluating how a broken heart can affect your sleep at night while helping readers empower themselves to heal and achieve a more restful night’s sleep.” Read more here.

Adult Children of Divorce

http://www.brokencircleproject.org/ The Broken Circle is an international program designed to give adult children of divorce a voice. It is comprised of interviews and amazing photographs of young adults raised in divorced homes.

Women’s Issues

www.lifescript.com. This is a women’s informational website that provides easy access to hundreds of articles on women’s psychosocial health issues.

Relationship Issues

The Gottman Relationship Blog – The Gottman Institute offers a research based approach to improving relationships. Terry Gaspard is a regular contributor and you can find her blogs here.

The Thought Catalog: A beloved never-ending stream of relationship articles. Terry is a contributor and you can find her blogs here.

Marriage

Marriage.com. A wealth of articles on all aspects of marriage and remarriage. Terry Is a contributor and you can find her blogs here.

www.smartmarriages.com. This website for the Coalition for Marriage, Family, and Couples Education is full of helpful resources – and it’s not limited to married people. The recommended resources and classes are relevant for couples at any stage – dating, engaged, newlywed, or cohabiting.

Divorce and Related Issues

DivorcedMoms.com is the leading resource and community for divorced moms to connect, communicate, express their passion and thoughts, share experiences and find expert information and advice. Terry is a featured journalist and you can find her blogs here.
Powered by the foremost divorce experts and bloggers, and by all of our Divorced Moms, DivorcedMoms.com is your special place – if you are facing the prospect, in the midst of, or rebuilding your life after divorce, this is where you will find trusted information to guide you.

DivorceMagazine.com offers thousands of pages of divorced related articles. Terry is a regular contributor and you can find her articles here.  

www.Divorcecentral.com. A good listing of resources about separation and divorce… along with a resource guide, message boards, and chat.

www.divorcesupport.com. A mega-site with information with divorce and family law topics such as:  child custody, visitation, child support, alimony, and property division.

How Much Does A Divorce Cost? A site that gives readers the financial information needed about divorce in the UK. http://pinningtonlaw.co.uk/divorce/how-much-does-a-divorce-cost/

www.professorchild.com. Professor Child’s “Children and Divorce” film brings together eight children to share their personal divorce stories. Their stories are unique, yet universal. They describe what divorce means to them, how it has changed their lives, what has helped, what they love most about their families, and much more. The film is helpful tool for any child experiencing divorce and wishing to know that they are not alone in the experience.

www.sincemydivorce.com A terrific website that offers weekly blogs on a variety of topics related to post-divorce adjustment. You can sign up for a weekly enewsletter which is highly informative.

http://www.abandonment.net/ Susan Anderson, LICSW founded this site and it offers strategies and hope to individuals dealing with abandonment issues – related to divorce and other losses. She has over 30 years of experience and has conducted research on victims of abandonment, trauma, grief, and loss. Follow Susan here: fullyfollow.me/susananderson and @susan_anderson_

“The Talk”: A Caring and Confident Approach to Telling the Kids About Your Plan to Separate or Divorce(TM).Learn more about this educational video series, with companion tip sheets and worksheet here. It also includes co-parenting do’s and don’ts to set you on a path toward successful post-divorce co-parenting. While on the Products and Free Guides page, check out other resources as well; including a free tip sheet for Telling Your Children About Divorce. By Lisa Gabardi, Ph.D., LLC

Resources for Divorce This guide published by Background Checks.org has a comprehensive list of resources available to individuals and families who are dealing with divorce related issues such as financial, children of divorce, and moving on post-divorce.

Legal

Karencovy.com: Need practical, reliable divorce information? Karen Covy is a Divorce Coach, Divorce Lawyer, Mediator, Arbitrator and Collaborative Divorce Professional. Her website has hundreds of articles and videos about every aspect of divorce, from trying to decide whether divorce is right for you, through the end of the divorce process. Check it out here.  https://karencovy.com/divorce-blog/

The Legal Glossary Translator. This glossary offers vital information to help readers define legal terms. https://www.gullands.com/glossary/

For Divorce laws by state, check out Total Divorce

Co-Dependency

Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT Author of Codependency for Dummies. You can now preorder: Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You Follow her on Facebook Join her Mailing List www.darlenelancer.com

www.whatiscodependency.com 310.458.0016

Parenting and Single Parenting

Parent Engagement Network A helpful site for parents seeking information on a variety of topics so they can raise healthy, happy youth. The Executive Director of this Boulder based non-profit is Shelly D. Mahon.

Million Miles Secrets.com is a travel guide for single parents that’s full of helpful tips. Traveling as a solo parent doesn’t have to be difficult, even if you’re single. They’ve created this guide as a resource to help you through the process of planning a trip and traveling by yourself with your kids.

Autism Parenting Magazine is an award-winning publication aimed at improving the quality of life for families effected by autism. Our magazine features articles from hundreds of contributors including respected professionals, autism experts, parents of children on the spectrum, and adults with autism.

Autism and Sleep: Empowering Children with ASD for Better Sleep by Slumber Yard Team: A comprehensive guide to assist children with autism who desire improved sleep. Coronavirus has had an enormous impact on all Americans’ sleep habits, but COVID-19 has been especially hard on children with autism who already deal with sleep-related issues. This practical guide offers details about how autism impacts your child’s sleep and solutions to help deal with them.

Addiction and Mental Health

Drugrehab.com is an online information center dedicated to those battling addiction and mental health issues. Their goal is to equip families with the necessary tools and resources to guide them on the road to recovery. We are here to help you or your loved one every step of the way. You can access the site here: www.drugrehab.com/addiction/alcohol/alcoholism/ or call 877-695-5395

Addiction Group.org. Resources to Stage An Intervention: https://www.addictiongroup.org/resources/groups/staging-an-intervention/. They only work with experienced medical writers and addiction counselors to ensure all of our content is helpful, accurate, and up-to-date before publication! We’ve even been HONcode certified for being medically accurate.

 

Suggested Resources for Finding a Therapist or Mediator

The following websites can help you locate a certified therapist or mediator in your area. You can also contact your insurance company or your state licensing board for mental health providers.

http://www.ecmediation.com/eileen-coen/ Eileen Coen is an attorney and trained mediator who provides mediation services to clients in Maryland, Northern Virginia, and the District of Columbia.

www.goodtherapy.org: Resources for individual, couples, marriage, family, or group therapy.

www.networktherapy.com: This provider directory features a searchable database of psychologists, psychiatrists, social workers, counselors, and treatment centers and support for people with mental health concerns.

www.therapistlocator.net: A public service of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT) offer resources for couples counseling and family therapy.

www.psychologytoday.com: Click on “Find a Therapist.”

Free Quick Relationship Guides by Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW

Restore Your Faith in Love

Eight Steps to Achieving Love and Commitment

General Non-fiction Works on Divorce, Remarriage, and Related Topics:

Ahrons, Constance, P.h.D. We’re Still Family: What Grown Children Have to say About Their Parents’ Divorce. New York: Harper Collins, 2004.

Barash, Susan Shapiro. Women of Divorce: Mothers, Daughters, and Stepmothers – The New Triangle. Far Hills, NJ: New Horizon Press, 2003.

Coleman, Joshua, Ph.D. When Parents Hurt. New York: Collins Living, 2008. A unique book helping parents whose relationship with their older or adult child has not turned out as they expected deal with their pain, shame, and sense of loss, and take steps toward healing.

Coleman, Joshua, Ph.D. Rules of Estrangement. New York: Penguin Random House, 2020. This book both comforts and challenges parents who are estranged from their adult children, lighting up a path for how they may repair their broken relationships.

Coleman, Joshua, Ph.D. The Marriage Makeover: Finding Happiness in Imperfect Harmony. New York, St. Martin’s Griffin, 2003.

Davis, Michele Weiner. The Divorce Remedy: The Proven 7-Step Program for Saving Your Marriage. New York: Simon & Schuster, 2001.

Davis, Michele Weiner. The Sex-Starved Marriage: Boosting Your Marriage Libido. New York: Simon and Schuster, 2003.

Fisher, Bruce, Ed.D, Alberti, Robert, Ph.D. Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends (35th Anniversary Edition): Impact Publishers, 2016.

Gottman, John M. The Relationship Cure: Five Steps to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships. New York: Three Rivers, 2010.

Gottman, M. John Ph.D. and Julie Schwartz, Ph.D., 8 Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love. New York: Workman, 2019.

Harville Hendricks, Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D. Making Marriage Simple: 10 Relationship Saving Truths. New York: Harmony, 2013.

Hetherington, E. Mavis. For Better or Worse: Divorce Reconsidered. New York: W.W. Norton, & Co., 2002.

Johnson, Ph.D. Hold Me Tight: Your Guide to the Most Successful Approach to Building Loving Relationships. London: Piatkus., 2011.

LaMotte, Elisabeth Joy. Overcoming Your Parents’ Divorce: 5 Steps to a Happy Relationship. Far Hills, NJ: New Horizon Press, 2008.

Lerner, Harriet, Ph.D., Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Couples Up. New York: Gotham Books, 2012.

Luskin, Fred Dr. Forgive For Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness. New York: Harper Collins, 2002.

Marquardt, Elizabeth. Between Two Worlds: The Inner Lives of Children of Divorce. New York: Three Rivers Press, 2005.

Milford, Anne and Gauvain, Jennifer. How Not to Marry the Wrong Guy. New York: Broadway Books, 2010.

Rosenthal, Sarah Simms, Ph.D. The Unavailable Father. San Francisco, CA: Jossey: Bass, 2010.

Staal, Stephanie. The Love they Lost: Living with the Legacy of Our Parents’ Divorce. New York: Delacorte Press, 2000.

Subotnik, R.S., and Harris, Gloria G. Surviving Infidelity: Making Decisions, Recovering from the Pain. Avon, MA: Adams Media. 2005.

Thayer, Elizabeth S. Ph.D., Zimmerman, Jeffrey Ph.D. The Co-Parenting Survival Guide: Letting Go of Conflict after a Difficult Divorce. New Harbinger Publications, Inc. 2001.

Wallerstein, Judith Ph.D. The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce: the 25 Year Landmark Study. New York: Hyperion, 2000.

Zimmerman, Jeffrey Ph.D., and Elizabeth S. Thayer, Ph.D. Adult Children of Divorce: How to Overcome the Legacy of Your Parents’ Breakup and Enjoy Love, Trust, and Intimacy. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Pub., 2003.