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How Attachment Style Determines Your Choices in a Partner
By Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT Your attachment style and degree of individuation determine your partnership choices and relationship satisfaction. The process of individuation—becoming an individual—allows you to meet your needs for both attachment and autonomy necessary...
9 Red Flags That Tell You That You’re Headed For Divorce
Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW After decades of being a therapist and lover of self-help books, I've come to realize that red flags usually appear fairly early on in failed relationships. For instance, most couples report that their relationship problems didn't surface...
9 Tips for Parents When You’re Dating After Divorce!
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC It’s no surprise that jumping into dating after a divorce can be difficult. But dating after a divorce when you have children can be even harder. That’s because your entire perspective on relationships changes after having children. Now you...
A Passion for More: Affairs That Make or Break Us
An Interview with Susan Shapiro Barash by Terry Gaspard, LICSW Susan Shapiro Barash is an American author of thirteen nonfiction women’s issue books including Tripping the Prom Queen, Toxic Friends, and You’re Grounded Forever, but First Let’s Go Shopping. She writes...
5 Ways to Heal From Your Breakup
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW When a romantic relationship or marriage ends, it’s natural to experience feelings of rejection, anger, sadness, guilt, or regret. Self-defeating thoughts can grab hold because you’re vulnerable and trying to make sense of things....
How to Validate Your Partner’s Feelings During Conflict
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW In a recent article for The Gottman Institute’s website, couples therapist Kyle Benson tackles an all-too-common source of conflict for couples. The article, “Head vs. Heart: Solving Meta-Emotion Mismatches for a Stronger Bond,” unpacks...
How Trust and Vulnerability Can Lead to Intimacy
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW Being able to trust your partner is the bedrock of an amazing relationship and couples who are are able to achieve secure attachment and stay emotionally connected can risk being vulnerable. As a result, they enjoy sensuality and passion...
7 Tips to Fall Back in Love With Your Partner
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW The most common complaint of couples today is that they have fallen out of love. However, falling out of love usually does not occur overnight. Likewise, relationship repair takes time and effort on the part of both partners and includes...
4 Ways to Avoid Ineffective Apologies in Relationships
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW For many of the people that seek counseling with me for ruptures in relationships, being able to apologize to a partner or ex-spouse is one of their biggest challenges. While there aren’t any simple solutions to a good apology, there are...
Co-Parenting with a Narcissistic or High-Conflict Ex-Partner
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW At its best, co-parenting is a wonderful opportunity for children of divorce to have close to equal access to both parents – to feel it is okay to love both of their parents. Experts agree that the outcomes for children of divorce improve...
