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6 Surefire Ways to Apologize to Your Partner

6 Surefire Ways to Apologize to Your Partner

By Terry Gaspard, LICSW There are many reasons why you or your partner may have difficulty apologizing to one another. For instance, you might equate apologizing with weakness and it’s widely believed that if you apologize to someone, you’re making yourself too...

Can a Planned Separation Bring Back Love to My Marriage?

Can a Planned Separation Bring Back Love to My Marriage?

By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW Dear Terry, I’m a fan of your blogs and have come to the conclusion that my husband of fifteen years and I are at a stalemate. Honestly, he’s a great guy but we just have tough chemistry. Our pattern is quite destructive and hard to break....

The Best Ways to Let Go of Resentment in Relationships

The Best Ways to Let Go of Resentment in Relationships

Dear Terry, I read your blogs often but haven’t found one to help me get over my feelings of resentment toward my boyfriend, Kyle.  We’ve been dating for over three years and living together for almost two. During our time together we’ve gotten over many hurdles –...

How Attachment Style Determines Your Choices in a Partner

How Attachment Style Determines Your Choices in a Partner

By Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT Your attachment style and degree of individuation determine your partnership choices and relationship satisfaction. The process of individuation—becoming an individual—allows you to meet your needs for both attachment and autonomy necessary...

9 Red Flags That Tell You That You’re Headed For Divorce

9 Red Flags That Tell You That You’re Headed For Divorce

Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW After decades of being a therapist and lover of self-help books, I've come to realize that red flags usually appear fairly early on in failed relationships. For instance, most couples report that their relationship problems didn't surface...

9 Tips for Parents When You’re Dating After Divorce!

9 Tips for Parents When You’re Dating After Divorce!

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC It’s no surprise that jumping into dating after a divorce can be difficult. But dating after a divorce when you have children can be even harder. That’s because your entire perspective on relationships changes after having children. Now you...

A Passion for More: Affairs That Make or Break Us

A Passion for More: Affairs That Make or Break Us

An Interview with Susan Shapiro Barash by Terry Gaspard, LICSW Susan Shapiro Barash is an American author of thirteen nonfiction women’s issue books including Tripping the Prom Queen, Toxic Friends, and You’re Grounded Forever, but First Let’s Go Shopping. She writes...

 5 Ways to Heal From Your Breakup

 5 Ways to Heal From Your Breakup

 By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW When a romantic relationship or marriage ends, it’s natural to experience feelings of rejection, anger, sadness, guilt, or regret. Self-defeating thoughts can grab hold because you’re vulnerable and trying to make sense of things....

How to Validate Your Partner’s Feelings During Conflict

How to Validate Your Partner’s Feelings During Conflict

By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW In a recent article for The Gottman Institute’s website, couples therapist Kyle Benson tackles an all-too-common source of conflict for couples. The article, “Head vs. Heart: Solving Meta-Emotion Mismatches for a Stronger Bond,” unpacks...

How Trust and Vulnerability Can Lead to Intimacy

How Trust and Vulnerability Can Lead to Intimacy

By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW Being able to trust your partner is the bedrock of an amazing relationship and couples who are are able to achieve secure attachment and stay emotionally connected can risk being vulnerable. As a result, they enjoy sensuality and passion...