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Mother’s Day Reflections: 7 Lessons I Learned from My Daughter

By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW Mother’s Day is a perfect time to reflect on how my divorce changed my relationship with my daughter. When I was a young teenager, I used to make lists of the things that I would teach a daughter – if I was lucky enough to have one. Since I’m a

5 Things You Don’t Understand About Divorce Until You’ve Lived Through It

By Lisa Arends I thought I knew about divorce. When I was in elementary school, I weathered my own parents’ divorce, observing their reactions from the sidelines. I felt the loss, the change in family structure. I experienced the strange vacancies of a split – the blank spots on the walls where my dad’s pictures

How Do I Know If Collaborative Divorce Is a Good Option?

Have you been considering divorce and afraid how it can affect your children and finances? You may have been considering a more customized and respectful alternative to traditional adversarial divorce – which is collaborative divorce. Well, there is no denying that collaborative divorce is a great option for the spouses contemplating divorce. But, just because

How are Your Boundaries in the Pandemic?          

Maintaining boundaries is challenging for most of us. But the pandemic has made it even more difficult. People have been quarantined with a partner, housemate, or family for nearly a year. Normally, we could at least create physical boundaries by going to work, the gym, seeing friends, or even taking side trips. All that has

Divorce and Estrangement: An Interview with Joshua Coleman, PhD

By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW An interview of Joshua Coleman Ph.D., by Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW on February 5, 2015 Joshua Coleman, Ph.D., is an internationally recognized expert in parenting, couples, families, and relationships. His advice has been featured in the New York Times and he has appeared on the Today show, 20/20, Good Morning

Unpacking Emotional Intimacy

By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW One of the keys to long-term happiness in any relationship is emotional intimacy. After the “honeymoon phase” for a new couple wears off, the emotional bonds that hold partners together become a sustaining force beyond their physical attraction. Experiencing emotional intimacy with a partner is one of the most satisfying

7 Signs Your Relationship is Healthy

By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW I have often heard it said that the best partner will compliment you and bring out your finer qualities. When you are with him or her, you will begin to see untapped possibilities within yourself and in the world. However, in any relationship, you will face difficulties and your love

Why It’s Hard to Receive Love and How to Overcome Shame

Often many people, in particular codependents, find it hard to receive. Codependents are more comfortable giving or even self-sacrificing than receiving. Yet they wonder why they’re in relationships with “selfish” or narcissistic partners. They might fantasize receiving, but keep right on giving and not suspect that their predicament is not just due to their partners’

3 Ways to Destress When Going Through a Divorce

Divorce is, perhaps, one of the most difficult things you can go through in life. It’s a harbinger of enormous change for you and your family. For many, it’s also fraught with hurt, anger, and sadness. As such, divorce can be an extremely stressful experience. Studies show that 10-15% of people struggle substantially with the

4 Ways You Can Be The Parent Your Kids Need Post-Divorce

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Divorce can be devastating when you’re a parent. You can’t just crawl into a hole and grieve, rant or rage. You must still care for the well-being of your children. And sometimes this is a challenge that overwhelms, resulting in parents who can’t cope with the responsibilities of parenting. When this

Do You Admire Your Partner?

What does it take to make a relationship last? Love? Respect? Passion? An ability to forgive? Kindness? Certainly these are key ingredients for a healthy relationship. But even when these qualities are present, some relationships still end. When I talk to women who are in happy relationships, most of them start out with how great

Divorced Parents: Support Your Children With Love During The Holidays

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC The holiday season can be especially difficult for children of divorce – especially during the first few years. Parents need to be diligent in creating new family traditions and activities designed to replace the memories of holidays past. Here are some ways to help your kids have a wonderful holiday season

Choosing the Right Divorce Lawyer For Your Situation

Besides fighting a traffic ticket, divorce gives most people their first and perhaps only exposure to their state’s legal system and the need to hire an attorney. This article explains how best to approach the selection process given your particular situation, needs, and goals, and is guidance from the noted Philadelphia divorce lawyers at the

5 Reasons Why It’s Not a Good Idea to Keep Secrets

By Terry Gaspard, LICSW When people keep secrets from their partner they often rationalize their behavior to themselves and others.  Usually, they lack confidence in their ability to confront unpleasant topics – such as money troubles, or issues related to past or present errors in judgment or mistakes. They simply don’t trust their partner enough

3 Signs You’re Ready For A Divorce – Especially If You’re A Parent!

Divorce is usually riddled in drama. It’s not an easy decision to make, and it comes with a multitude of challenges. This is especially so if you’re a parent. We can all agree that   divorce should be avoided whenever possible. It’s not a solution to marital problems. In many cases it’s more like an escape