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7 Tips to Fall Back in Love With Your Partner
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW The most common complaint of couples today is that they have fallen out of love. However, falling out of love usually does not occur overnight. Likewise, relationship repair takes time and effort on the part of both partners and includes...
4 Ways to Avoid Ineffective Apologies in Relationships
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW For many of the people that seek counseling with me for ruptures in relationships, being able to apologize to a partner or ex-spouse is one of their biggest challenges. While there aren’t any simple solutions to a good apology, there are...
Co-Parenting with a Narcissistic or High-Conflict Ex-Partner
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW At its best, co-parenting is a wonderful opportunity for children of divorce to have close to equal access to both parents – to feel it is okay to love both of their parents. Experts agree that the outcomes for children of divorce improve...
Distancer Behavior and Attachment Styles in Relationships
By Darlene Lancer Pursuer-distancer relationships cause a lot of heartache, especially for a pursuer. Learn about the mind of a distancer to understand your own or your partner’s behavior so you won’t take it personally. As codependants, we usually gravitate toward...
Tips for Keeping Romance Alive in Your Marriage All Year Round
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW A good romantic and sexual relationship is built on a foundation of emotional intimacy and closeness. Many couples struggle to maintain sexual intimacy because they don’t believe they have time for date nights and they have difficulty...
5 Ways to Make Small Gestures Count in Your Marriage
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW Elena, 48, and Jason, 52, have been married fifteen years and came to counseling to improve their communication and to stop bickering. Like many couples who I counsel, I asked them both what worked in their marriage and what areas need to...
How to Repair from Arguments and Have a Happy Marriage
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW We’ve all been there: embroiled in an argument with our partner, caught up in emotion, and perhaps most crucially, unsure of how something seemingly small escalated. The touchy topic of who’s “right” and who’s “wrong” in a conflict between...
Opposites Attract But Can They Stay Together?
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW From the time I started dating at age sixteen, I’ve often found myself attracted to my polar opposite – for better and for worse. Likewise, I’ve counseled many couples who are drawn to their opposite because of strong chemistry but find...
How Mistrust Can Destroy a Marriage and What to Do About It
By Terry Gaspard Trust and intimacy form the foundation of a lasting marriage. When couples bring baggage such as infidelity or trauma from the past, it can set the stage for mistrust. That’s why it’s crucial that you allow yourself to be vulnerable and discuss...
Surefire Ways to Deepen Emotional Intimacy with Your Partner
Emotional intimacy is the bedrock of an amazing marriage or relationship. Couples who are able to achieve secure attachment and stay emotionally connected are able to risk being vulnerable. Erik, 42, and Amanda, 40, a couple who I counseled recently came to my office...
