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5 Tips to Help Your Children Thrive After Divorce

By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT Communication with our children is always important, but never as essential as when they are impacted

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4 Ways To Achieve Emotional Health in Your Divorce

by Jason Levoy When you hear the word “Divorce” what is the first thing that comes to mind? Court, contentious,

A Simple But Powerful Meditation to Help You Heal During and After Divorce

By Lisa Gabardi, Ph.D. Why meditation? Divorce is stressful. You may feel sad, confused, angry, broken hearted, agitated, defensive, and

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Opposites Attract But Don’t Usually Stay Together

By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW Is it possible for opposites to achieve long-lasting love? This is an age old question

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Parental Alienation After Divorce: Never Take It Out on The Kids!

By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT Divorce conflicts between parents can get ugly. And too often parents tend to vent or share

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8 Steps to Reclaiming Your Life After Divorce

By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW Let’s be honest, a divorce can shake your foundation and make you question your own

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A Mother’s Day Reflection: 6 Lessons I Learned From My Daughter

By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW Mother’s Day is a perfect time to reflect on how my divorce changed my relationship

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How To Stop The Cycle Of Toxic Relationships For Good

By Kristin Davin, Psy.D. Few people make it through life without experiencing at least one toxic relationship. That’s probably because

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Blended Family Success Strategies for Parents & Kids!

By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT There are twenty million blended families in the United States alone. That number has doubled over

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7 Things To Consider Before Entering A Rebound Relationship

By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW Getting involved in a rebound relationship is a risky proposition. If you’re feeling lonely after

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Divorce and Estrangement: What To Try When You And Your Adult Child Don’t Get Along

An interview of Joshua Coleman Ph.D., by Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW on February 5, 2015 Joshua Coleman, Ph.D., is an

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5 Ways To Get Past Your Breakup

By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW When a romantic relationship or marriage ends, it’s natural to experience feelings of rejection, anger,

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11 Skills That Predict Success In Marriage And Relationships

By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW What can you do to improve your marriage or relationship when you feel it’s heading

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Divorced Dads And Step-Dads: Keeping It All In Perspective

By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT Being a divorced Dad can be one of the most frustrating experiences any parent will ever

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Finding Dad: From “Love Child” To Daughter

By Kara Sundlun “Forgiveness is a mystical act, not a reasonable one.” Caroline Myss I was thirteen years old and

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8 Things Great Single Parents Do Differently (Than Their Own Parents)

By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW In a culture where parents are bombarded with messages about how to be a good

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7 Tips To Make Long-Distance Parenting Work After Divorce

By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW Recently, I’ve had several dads write to me about their challenges related to creating a

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The Benefits Of Forgiving Your Former Spouse

By Deborah Moskovitch Have you been deeply wounded by your ex-spouse? Does s/he continue to engage in hurtful behavior even

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Divorced Parents: Help Your Children Survive During The Holidays

By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT The holiday season can be challenging for children of divorce – especially during the first few

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Are You Too Self-Reliant In Relationships?

Dear Terry, I read your chapter excerpt “Self-Reliance: Our Greatest Asset, Our Greatest Liability” and could really relate. My parents

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How To Break Out Of The Pursuer-Distancer Dance

By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW While all couples need autonomy and closeness, many couples struggle with the pursuer-distancer dance and

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5 Ways That Your Belief In A Soul Mate Is Holding You Back

By Lisa Arends I’ve never been one to believe in soul mates. Even when my 22-year-old self said “I do”

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Considerations For Co-Parenting Well Through The Teen Years

by Lisa Gabardi, Ph.D. The teen years are exciting and scary, for teens and their parents. Teens are developing their

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Moving Past Divorce: Anger, Bitterness, And Resentment

by Kristin M. Davin PSY.D. Even when it’s over, it ain’t over. Especially with divorce. Divorce is a major life

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A Comforting Bedtime Story For Children of Divorce

By Jackie Pilossoph I don’t know a child on earth who doesn’t love a good bedtime story. Having both a

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How To Make School Your Child’s Ally After Divorce!

By Rosalind Sedacca Returning to school after their parents have separated or divorced can be difficult for any child. You can ease

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8 Ways To Avoid Dating Guys Who Hurt You

Dear Terry, I’ve been dating Jake for about two years and just don’t know if he’s right for me. We

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Do You Have Relationship Envy?

By Tracy Clifford Envy. Jealousy. You know that feeling. You want what someone else has. You feel like you’re missing

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From Spouses to Co-Parents: Tasks and Tools for this Difficult Divorce Transition

by Lisa Gabardi, Ph.D. Of the many transitions associated with divorce, going from spouse to “ex” or former spouse is

letting go of resentment
The Best Ways To Let Go Of Resentment In Relationships

By Terry Gaspard MSW, LICSW Dear Terry & Tracy, I read your blogs often but haven’t found one to help

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What I Wish I Knew During My Divorce

By Lisa Arends Experience is quite a teacher, isn’t she? No matter how many books we read or how many

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Dating After Divorce: Be Careful About How You Tell Your Kids!

By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT We all know divorce creates havoc in any family’s life, especially when children are involved. Moving

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Do You Dare To Take Stock Of Your Relationship?

By Tracy Clifford “Fear can create a whole universe of disinformation. And want — well, want rearranges the world entirely.”

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Is He The One I Should Commit To?

Dear Terry, I’ve been dating Brian for two years and still feel uncertain about whether he’s the one for me. 

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How To Trust Your Own Judgment In Relationships

By Tracy Clifford I can say this with certainty: There is not one person on this planet that hasn’t made

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6 Ways Pets Can Help Families Through Divorce

By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT Can a pet be helpful to your children during a divorce and the transition after?  Without

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5 Voices Of Divorce

We all know about The Five Love Languages, but do you know about the five voices of divorce? You may

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Marriage Counseling: Can It Save A Marriage On The Brink?

By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW Dear Terry, Rick and I have been married for eight years and things are going

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5 Ways To Stop Settling For Less Than You Deserve In A Relationship

By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW with Tracy Clifford Dear Terry, Ryan and I have been dating for over eight years

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6 Tips To Bring Back Love And Passion To Your Marriage

By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW Dear Terry, I’ve been married to Bruce for eight years and I’m worried because we’ve

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Surviving a Narcissistic Partner: Should You Stay Or Should You Go?

Dear Terry, I’m definitely a “Fixer” and I married Tim knowing that he was controlling and self-centered. But I just

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How Do I Know If My Partner Is A Narcissist?

By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW Recently, I received the following e-mail from Haley, a 32 year old woman who is

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Learn To Love Yourself And Find Inner Peace

By Tracy Clifford “If you knew you were fully loved, if you knew that you were whole and worthy exactly

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Will You Be Alone Forever?

By Tracy Clifford If you’ve gone through a divorce or breakup, there’s a persistent question that might linger in your

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Parents Beware: Six Don’ts When Divorcing With Children!

By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT  Preparing to break the news to your kids that you’re divorcing their other parent?  Feeling insecure

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The Price Of Arguing Too Much, And For Too Long: What About the Kids?

By Claudia Perez, Ph.D. When parents argue too much and for too long, their children internalize negative feelings and thoughts.

Co-Parenting Tips For The Holidays: Creating New Memories

Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW One of the toughest times of year for family members following divorce is the holiday season.

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Fathers and Daughters: An Essential Bond After Divorce

By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW  The relationship a daughter has with her father is one that has a profound impact

Looking For Love: “No Right Person, Just Different Flavors of Wrong.”

By Tracy Clifford “We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough

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Effective Co-Parenting: How to Share Your Kids as Loving Divorced Parents

Effective Co-Parenting: How to Share your Kids as Loving Divorced Parents By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT   As a Divorce  and

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Building Resiliency In Children After Divorce

Building Resiliency in Children After Divorce Part 3: Children’s Adjustment To Parental Divorce: The Role Of Conflict By Terry Gaspard,

What Are The Long-term Effects Of Parental Divorce On Children?

What Are The Long-term Effects Of Parental Divorce On Children? Part 2 of a series: Children’s Adjustment To Parental Divorce:

Should Parents Stay Together For The Sake Of The Children?

The First in a Three Part Series: Children’s Adjustment to Parental Divorce: The Role of Conflict Terry Gaspard, MSW LICSW

Why Does Divorce Create Such Turmoil?

WHY DOES DIVORCE CREATE SUCH TURMOIL? © Susan Anderson July 28 2013   Abandonment is our first fear.  It

How To Prevent Scarring Your Kids During And After Divorce!

By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT     Divorce need not wound and scar your children if you put their emotional and

Turning Fear Of Commitment Into Enthusiastic Desire

By Karen McMahon One of the most common fears I hear from men and women going through a divorce is

5 Steps To Know When You Are Ready For Love After Divorce

By Guest Blogger Keri Kettle   Let’s be honest, dating after divorce can be weird and awkward. Most likely it’s

Being Alone After A Breakup

Of all the difficult experiences that result from the breakup of a romantic relationship, being alone can be amongst the

6 Ways To Mend Broken Trust After Divorce

6 Ways To Mend Broken Trust After Divorce Learning to trust is one of the biggest challenges that individuals face

Should You Forgive After Your Divorce? 6 Steps to Releasing the Past

By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT Forgiveness can be one of the hardest concepts to understand – and one of the most

Tips for Improving a Co-parenting Relationship

By Mark B. Baer, Esq. According to Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW, “shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of

Happy Women
Finding Yourself Amidst the Rubble of Your Divorce

By Karen McMahon We can get so entrenched in being part of a ‘unit’ when married that we lose ourselves.

Drew Barrymore: Making Her Family Work

Once known for being a wild child, Hollywood starlet Drew Barrymore has settled into a new life with husband Will

How to Stay Optimistic When Dating After Divorce

By Sandy Weiner, dating coach at Last First Date It can be very challenging to date after your divorce. There

Divided Loyalties: The Unintended Plight of Children of Divorce

No one marries intending to get a divorce. For the most part, when parents’ split up, they feel badly about

Nobody Asked Me: Thoughts from a Stepchild

I came across therapist Mary Kelly’s blog, “Nobody Asked Me: The Plight of the Reluctant Stepchild” on Huff Post Divorce,

6 Secrets to Successful Single Parenting

Making the transition from married to single life won’t be easy for you or your children, but it can be

5 Ways to Deal with Feelings of Guilt and Rejection Post-divorce

When a marriage dissolves, it’s a natural to experience feelings of guilt or rejection. Guilt can arise when a parent

Sticking by Bethenny Frankel: For Better or Worse

When I wrote a blog about Bethenny Frankel several months ago, I marveled at her strength, resilience, and determination to

How to Tell Your Child You’re Getting a Divorce

Telling your child that you’re getting a divorce may be one of the most difficult things you have to do
Adult Children Of Divorce: Handling the Holidays

Dear Terry & Tracy, My mom and dad live thirty minutes away from one another, and want me to spend

Why Am I Unlucky in Love?

I’ve gotten to thinking about the role luck plays in relationships lately. As I’ve been working on revisions to our

Daughters of Divorce: The Struggle for Love, Trust and Intimacy

I’ve written extensively about stepfamilies, how to build trust in relationships, and how to restore a shaken faith in love.

A Stepchild’s Perspective on Divorce & Remarriage

If you’ve ever been through a divorce, you know it’s not just a one time event, especially when children are

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A Man’s Self-image After Divorce

By Leah Morrigan The first time I met him, Ted wore disheveled biking clothes and his eyes were bloodshot from

Financial “First Aid” for Divorce…

So, “til death do you part” has played itself out differently than you had originally imagined or planned. And now

The Way In Which Individuals Respond to Losses Relating to Divorce

My last Blog entitled, “Emotions Play an Integral Role in Divorce Proceedings and Therefore Must be Understood by the Attorney”

Children of Divorce

As the eight children entered the room, we were filled with excitement and anticipation at what the day would bring. 

Overcoming the Legacy of Divorce: 7 Pathways

Divorce goes back five generations in my family. Sharing this fact still shocks me and gives me reason to pause.

Bethenny Frankel: Working Hard to Beat the Odds and Save her Marriage

There are few celebrities who catch my attention or admiration in recent years. Bethenny Frankel is the exception.  She is

Will Living Together Lead to Marriage?

Dear Tracy, Six months ago, my boyfriend and I of three years moved in together. Taking your advice, I wanted

One Stepdad’s Story

I’ll have to admit that when I became a stepfather, the day I married my wife Terry – in May

Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes: The Fantasy Is Over

Much has been written about the Tom Cruise Katie Holmes divorce in the past week. I don’t like to speculate

Courteney Cox and David Arquette: Still Friends

David Arquette filed for divorce from Courteney Cox last week, the same week Courteney turned 48 and their adorable daughter

Happy Father’s Day: A Special Message to Divorced Dads of Daughters!

As Father’s Day approaches, it’s a great time to pause and reflect on the contributions that dads make to their

Are You Afraid of Relationship Success?

Many people fear relationship failure. We fear that when we open ourselves up to other people, they will hurt us,

Six Ways for Daughters of Divorce to Succeed at Marriage

Marriage is under intense scrutiny in the media in recent years. As fewer individuals are getting married, it becomes meaningful

A Mother’s Perspective on Divorce: A Reflection on Demi Moore’s Resurgence

Mother’s Day is a powerful reminder of the legacy that we, as mothers, pass on to our daughters. As a

Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie: Getting Married for the Kids?

Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie announced their engagement recently. They’ve been dating since 2005 and share six children. More couples

Is Marriage Just a Piece of Paper?

It’s no secret that marriage rates are on the decline. In 1960, 72% of Americans were married. Today, 50% are.

Resolving Conflicts in Relationships: Getting the Love You Want

It may seem obvious to some, but not all, that the best relationships are ones born out of trust and

Moving Past Divorce: Interview of Tara

Tara has learned from her parents’ mistakes and has a healthy respect for commitment.  She embraces the Seven Pathways to Success and has examined

Can I Risk Being Vulnerable and Intimate with My Partner?

Many daughters of divorce, like Diana, have a fear of commitment. She just can’t see a relationship working out, but

First Comes Baby . . . When Comes Marriage?

TIME Magazine published an interesting article in its March 5, 2012 issue, titled “Just Not the Marrying Kind” by Rich

Katy Perry and Russell Brand: The Starter Marriage

Why did Katy Perry and Russell Brand get divorced? It’s certainly not the most shocking of celebrity splits. The combination

How Can I Improve Self-Esteem?

Before a woman can begin to build successful relationships, she must have healthy self-esteem. The way you feel about yourself

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Divorce Statistics

The most commonly quoted statistic about marriage is that 50% of marriages end in divorce. For the past several decades,

How Can I Rebuild Trust?

Learning to trust is one of the biggest challenges for women who have endured the divorce experience. As a child,

How Can I Heal from Infidelity?

Infidelity is all too common and when it occurs it raises many questions. Should you stay? Can trust be rebuilt?

Heidi & Seal

It came as a surprise to many when Heidi Klum and Seal announced they were getting a divorce. To the

Restoring Your Faith in Love

Since you are reading this blog, it’s likely that you have been touched by divorce – either because of your

The Divorce Fund

Any good financial planner will tell you it’s important to have money in your own name.  You should know what

Demi Moore: “My Greatest Fear”

Just a week after announcing her divorce from Ashton Kutcher, Demi Moore was interviewed for the February issue of Harper’s

Am I Doomed to Repeat Patterns of the Past?

Do you ever wonder if you’ll get out from under the shadow of your parents’ divorce? Do you worry about

Should I Take a Chance on Marriage?

Do you fear that if you tie the knot, your marriage will end in divorce like your parents did? If

Let’s Talk About Stepfamilies

Dear Terry and Tracy,  When I was six years old I became a stepchild. When my mom told me that

Living Between Two Worlds

Do you ever wish that life were simpler? That you wouldn’t have to worry about dealing with so many expectations

Do You Admire Your Partner?

What does it take to make a relationship last? Love? Respect? Passion? An ability to forgive? Kindness? Certainly these are

The Sleeper Effect

Dear Terry and Tracy, My parents’ divorce really didn’t upset me much. I wasn’t surprised because I knew they weren’t

The Approval Trap

Dear Terry & Tracy, My friends all tell me that I’m a people pleaser and that I need to stand

Daddy Hunger

Dear Terry & Tracy, My parents divorced when I was nine years old. When I was young, I was Daddy’s

Should I Move in with My Boyfriend?

Dear Terry & Tracy, Should my boyfriend and I live together? We’ve been dating for about a year and a